Everyone will have their own idea of you. Nobody can know you like you do.

Everyone is always going to have their own idea of you.

Their own perception of you and how you come across to them.

They will think of you in ways they perceive you as or to be,

they will project their own ideas onto you,

they will view you through their personal lens;

through a lens that pulls into thoughts, ideas, beliefs, perceptions, subconscious projections, feelings, experiences;

everything that encompasses the person, individual, who they are, their history, their mindset and thinking processes, their past and present self;

everything that is this human being.

And everything that is this being is another individual and human, just like you, who will have their own ideas about other people based on who they are and how they interpret and read another through their lens.

You and them - all of us,

we will have our own ideas of people.

From the way one comes across,

the way one speaks,

what ones says and expresses,

one's thoughts and opinions,

how one dresses,

how one acts and behaves,

how one carries themselves,

the way one is in different settings and environments,

the way one socialises with others,

how one makes another feel,

what one likes and dislikes,

how one comes across from the outside, externally - in front of the person, people, society.

And so many more reasons for one to form an idea and opinion and judgement of what type of person someone may be.

This is how we - you, me, they, create an idea and perception of someone;

of you;

which in turn, can influence and affect the way they treat you, what they say in exchanging words with you, the interactions between each person, and the relationships.

Nobody can know you like you do.

In this sense, your way of being from the outside and external is what's being judged and perceived.

And in this way, it's the internal, inner self of your heart and mind that nobody can truly know unless you release it to the outside world where it can be read and interpreted by another.

What you allow to show externally, is what can allow someone to form an idea about you.

What's kept internally, is what nobody can truly see, know, or understand.

What's kept internally has no potential for judgement or interpretation by another in forming ideas of the type of person you are, or who you are.

We cannot read minds or hearts, or at least fully.

So, what isn't shown outside means people can only think about you from that - outside factors of your being.

So, what's hidden on the inside means people can't bring in further information on the inner self you hold within your being;

the vulnerability, the love, the care, your truth, your inner thoughts and feelings, how you truly feel and think, your held back abilities, capabilities, and potential, your known self.

Nobody will ever really know you like you do.

You know yourself best.

In the sense that you know your true and full skills and abilities, capabilities and potential (even if you don't see this in yourself consciously or are uncomfortable admitting it) - you know what you are good at, such as strengths, and what knowledge you hold.

In the sense that you know exactly how you feel and think inside when you are met with something reactive or engaging.

When you are in conversation and interacting with another person, a specific individual, or multiple people.

When you are met with a hard decision or problem to solve.

When you are faced with life challenges.

When you are in a space of vulnerability and opportunity to express yourself.

You know yourself best.

In the sense that you know how you like your coffee, matcha, hot chocolate, smoothies.

You know where you would reach to for comfort.

You know your favourite songs and the ones that hold memories and meaning to you.

You know where your comfort zone is, and where the stretch outside of it begins.

You know who you are and how you act when you're alone in your room.

You know your state of being when you're in your own space.

Outside of judgements or performative acts.

Outside of other people's gaze and presence.

You know how you like to relax on a weekend,

what you enjoy doing in your spare time,

your passions and hobbies,

and what fulfills your soul.

You know what makes you feel upset or leaves you crying in tears.

You know what you're thinking about,

how you're feeling inside,

how you interpret things,

the wisdom you hold within,

what you do know and don't know.

Only you can know your inner workings and being.

It's only when you release those to the outer being of yourself, can they be seen by others.

There's more to this thought, but I'll close off with a gentle reminder on people having their own ideas of you.

Don't take passing comments or judgements on you, your personality, your intelligence, your life, too personally. Take it with a grain of salt. As an insight of who they are, and an onlooker's perception or perspective of how you come across as a person to them specifically.

You may gain some self-awareness.

You may gain a sliver of who they are and the type of person they are.

Many people and things can be a reflection of you.

It's up to you on how you choose to differentiate between when something may be about you or when something may be about the other person.

Sincerely,

Sitting With Ourselves